Phase one of my PLAN has been completed. I quit my job.
I wrote at the beginning of the year that things needed to change. I think I had visions of myself calmly and confidently taking charge of everything, making difficult decisions in a cool, considered way, and leaving my problems further and further behind, despite the fact that I was obviously already getting ill. None of that happened, and instead I got the two things I didn't want - my health collapsing, and things with work reaching crisis point. It's been a lot to handle. But the main drive behind that post, and many posts before and since, was to not end the year still doing this shitty job I hate. Same destination, slightly unpleasant detour on the journey.
I have absolutely no idea what's going to happen next, but I'm convinced this is the right thing to do. It was never the ideal job for me, but once it had served its purpose of getting me out of my last job and into London, I never quite had the impetus to look for something else. It was stable, undemanding, vaguely unsatisfying. My motivation, when I had it, went to learning new things and acquiring myself a social life. But over the last couple of years, the rut became gradually less and less comfortable until it went entirely to shit earlier this year and made me very ill. I'm not leaving on quite the "goodbye everyone, I have to go and be a millionaire on the Cote d'Azure" note that my unrealistic brain liked to picture; I'm not even leaving because I found something better. But it's not about finding something better first. It's about this not being good enough. Life has taught me that lesson over and over again, and I really ought to start listening to it.
Things are going to be tough. I've been with the same company all my working life. I have no experience of job hunting or interviews or what people want you to say in a CV. I am really bad at not having any money. But I have to remind myself that I'm also really bad at not having my own space, but I managed to be homeless for two months. I beat myself up at the time for not doing enough, for being too fussy (I mean, come on, if you really wanted somewhere to live you would have taken the £160-a-week-plus-bills room in the drug den), and when I did find somewhere it wasn't exactly plain sailing, but I was right to go with my instinct. I'm still living with two of the girls I moved in with two years ago and it's the best living arrangement I've ever had.
Phase two is undefined. Phase three will be profit.
Wednesday, 28 October 2015
Tuesday, 13 October 2015
things I've managed to do during this period of depression
Mostly kept to a vaguely diurnal schedule
Got up for a Tuesday morning appointment every week
Learnt how to make actually wearable clothes through a combination of classes, Youtube videos and repeatedly fucking things up
Gone on holiday, twice
Gone to all five parts of an enormous wedding and actually enjoyed myself
Spent quality time with the other people living in the same house as me
Started re-learning Italian and have (currently) a thirty-five day continuous streak going
Gone to at least half a dozen dance events
Taken photos
Seen some of the people I like whilst also not seeing the people I don't like
Responded to shitty behaviour of employer like an adult who knows what she's talking about
Written
Sorted out basic household stuff
Supported boyfriend also going through a difficult time
Supported friend going through a worse time than possibly everyone else I know put together, as much as she'd let me
Thrown out quite a lot of clutter
Come up with a PLAN to extricate myself from a crappy situation
Read two books and a play
Seen films, gone to the theatre, had cocktails, met new people, gone for dinners, been to birthday parties and generally had THINGS in my life
(I've written this out because I spend so much time wondering how I can fix everything that I forget what I've actually done. I keep thinking about the plans I skipped out on and comparing my social life to what it was a couple of years ago, glossing over all the stuff I actually have done and the fact that while things may have changed, that's not necessarily either my fault or a bad thing. Maybe things had to become uncomfortable in order to push me out of my shitty job, and maybe from a few steps back it's easier to see a group dynamic I don't really want to be a part of. If I've got any hope of getting better any time soon it won't be through obsessively trying to fix everything to be the way it used to be.)
Monday, 5 October 2015
books
Back when I was a baby Jen, I read anything and everything within my reach. Magazines, letters, cereal boxes, books far out of my age range on both sides. Six words or sixty thousand words, it didn't matter to me as long as I was reading something.
I read ALL of the books. I read four Little Women books, about twelve Anne of Green Gables books, a couple of Nancy Drews. I read three What Katy Did books and spent several years trying to find the other two, with no success. I read Lewis Carroll and C.S. Lewis, I read Enid Blyton (everything except the Famous Five, and I have no idea why that is), I read Roald Dahl, I read Judy Blume, and I read an embarrassing amount of Sweet Valley High because once I'd read one, I wanted to know everything that ever happened to them. It didn't matter that they weren't written very well; I could make them better with a little twist of the mind.
I read Kipling. I read the Bible (and was deeply uncomfortable with God from that point on). I attempted to read my mother's copy of The Hobbit but decided after twenty minutes of trying very hard that this clearly wasn't a book that was meant to be read. I read about the history, lifestyles and myths of the ancient Greeks in the library then came home and washed it down with something gleefully childish, full of rainbows and squirrels.
It used to be my second favourite thing in the world, just behind making up stories of my own. And yet I realised recently that I've barely read a book in years beyond constant revisiting of my worn out Pratchetts. There are maybe half a dozen novels in my room, more than one unread, and I haven't been at all moved to pick them up.
Occasionally a curiosity sparks in me and I do read something, but I can remember them all, well-spaced out in my mind. The first half of my life was a torrent of books, and in the 20 minutes I've been writing this I've remembered at least two dozen books I'd completely forgotten having read. The last few years, however, I can remember every book I read, and the sense of accomplishment when I finished each one. There. I read a book. An actual book. I got pickier, not wanting to read anything that might disappoint me. I loved reading mostly in theory, sure that there could be no greater feeling than reading that one life-altering book, but just as sure that book would not be out there for the finding. Then I got writer's block, and reading only served to remind me of what I couldn't do anymore. This isn't even very good, the book would say to me, and yet you can't do any better.
A few days ago it occurred to me that not reading anything was at the very least feeding into my still ongoing writer's block. My brain gets stuck on a very narrow, specific way of creating plot and characters and narrative, and I'm not feeding it anything to show a different way of doing things. I haven't been able to get past a couple of thousand words in my last two years of NaNoWriMo, and my lack of ability to get a story out is more painful than I'd like to admit. My PLAN commands me to produce a story this November. I won't be at work, and by then I'll have told them that I don't intend to come back. To end November with a long-overdue novel and an even longer-overdue P45 would be the best indicator of a new start that I could get.
With that in mind, I rediscovered Project Gutenberg and opened up Vanity Fair, based on having seen an off-hand mention of Becky Sharp on Twitter the day before. I started reading it on Friday evening and by Sunday night I was finished. This morning I read A Doll's House, which has been on my list for years. I'm hoping to have a novel open in a tab pretty much constantly all month, though as yet I have absolutely no idea what I'm hoping to read and am on the lookout for recommendations. Maybe if I can read, I can write again.
P.S. Project Gutenberg has the two books I searched for in vain as a child, so later on this month Baby Jen is getting a much-delayed treat.
I read ALL of the books. I read four Little Women books, about twelve Anne of Green Gables books, a couple of Nancy Drews. I read three What Katy Did books and spent several years trying to find the other two, with no success. I read Lewis Carroll and C.S. Lewis, I read Enid Blyton (everything except the Famous Five, and I have no idea why that is), I read Roald Dahl, I read Judy Blume, and I read an embarrassing amount of Sweet Valley High because once I'd read one, I wanted to know everything that ever happened to them. It didn't matter that they weren't written very well; I could make them better with a little twist of the mind.
I read Kipling. I read the Bible (and was deeply uncomfortable with God from that point on). I attempted to read my mother's copy of The Hobbit but decided after twenty minutes of trying very hard that this clearly wasn't a book that was meant to be read. I read about the history, lifestyles and myths of the ancient Greeks in the library then came home and washed it down with something gleefully childish, full of rainbows and squirrels.
It used to be my second favourite thing in the world, just behind making up stories of my own. And yet I realised recently that I've barely read a book in years beyond constant revisiting of my worn out Pratchetts. There are maybe half a dozen novels in my room, more than one unread, and I haven't been at all moved to pick them up.
Occasionally a curiosity sparks in me and I do read something, but I can remember them all, well-spaced out in my mind. The first half of my life was a torrent of books, and in the 20 minutes I've been writing this I've remembered at least two dozen books I'd completely forgotten having read. The last few years, however, I can remember every book I read, and the sense of accomplishment when I finished each one. There. I read a book. An actual book. I got pickier, not wanting to read anything that might disappoint me. I loved reading mostly in theory, sure that there could be no greater feeling than reading that one life-altering book, but just as sure that book would not be out there for the finding. Then I got writer's block, and reading only served to remind me of what I couldn't do anymore. This isn't even very good, the book would say to me, and yet you can't do any better.
A few days ago it occurred to me that not reading anything was at the very least feeding into my still ongoing writer's block. My brain gets stuck on a very narrow, specific way of creating plot and characters and narrative, and I'm not feeding it anything to show a different way of doing things. I haven't been able to get past a couple of thousand words in my last two years of NaNoWriMo, and my lack of ability to get a story out is more painful than I'd like to admit. My PLAN commands me to produce a story this November. I won't be at work, and by then I'll have told them that I don't intend to come back. To end November with a long-overdue novel and an even longer-overdue P45 would be the best indicator of a new start that I could get.
With that in mind, I rediscovered Project Gutenberg and opened up Vanity Fair, based on having seen an off-hand mention of Becky Sharp on Twitter the day before. I started reading it on Friday evening and by Sunday night I was finished. This morning I read A Doll's House, which has been on my list for years. I'm hoping to have a novel open in a tab pretty much constantly all month, though as yet I have absolutely no idea what I'm hoping to read and am on the lookout for recommendations. Maybe if I can read, I can write again.
P.S. Project Gutenberg has the two books I searched for in vain as a child, so later on this month Baby Jen is getting a much-delayed treat.
Thursday, 1 October 2015
drugs
Yesterday I saw a psychiatrist. I almost didn't see the psychiatrist, for a series of rather convoluted reasons involving being told the appointment would be cancelled, getting a reminder text the day before telling me I had an appointment with the "locum physiotherapist", me calling to cancel said physiotherapy appointment and them telling me there was no doctor by the name on the record working there anyway, then getting a phone call at quarter past ten from a psychiatrist wondering where I was.
ME: Oh, God, I'm sorry, they told me you were a locum physiotherapist and no doctor by that name was working there and the letter said they'd cancelled it and...
HIM: Hmm. Can you come in now?
(Apparently psychiatrists aren't really interested in reasons.)
He asked me questions about my symptoms and I cried, because that's what I do at the moment. He asked me questions to screen for other mental health problems and I had some little fights with myself.
HIM: Do you ever hear voices?
ME: No.
BRAIN: Do I count as a voice?
ME: No.
BRAIN: Are you sure?
ME: Yes.
BRAIN: Hey, I thought of a thing!
ME: Look, either help me interact with this human asking me deeply personal questions or shut up.
BRAIN: Fine, you're on your own. I'm going to watch him try to make facial expressions instead.
He was an interesting psychiatrist. He'd clearly heard of empathy, and had done a bit of training in it, but it wasn't a natural talent of his. He attempted a variety of faces, including "oh, that's awful", "I acknowledge and understand that this is upsetting for you", "oh, that's awful in a very different way", "hey, I worked out where you're from because you used the word 'gorge'" and "don't worry, everything will be alright", all of which he managed perfectly well with the bottom half of his face.
He wanted to talk about drugs. He wasn't sure that he believed my side effects, but was happy to try me with something fancier.
HIM: We keep this one up our sleeves for when the more common antidepressants don't work. The initial dose is 75mg...
ME: ...I was freaking out about going up to 30mg on the last one.
HIM: But we can go up to about 220.
ME: Oh, that's alright then. (?)
The thing is, I'm not really sure that I want drugs. Drugs have worked for me in the past when I've really wanted to be happy with the situation I'm in, and that's not the case right now. I'm not happy, and to kick my expectations and dreams far down enough to let me be happy in that dull-as-shit job with its complete lack of prospects, stimulation or genuine people would feel like failure, a commitment to mediocrity I'm not prepared to make. This isn't the place for me anymore, and I promised myself that this year would be the year I made difficult but correct decisions for my own happiness. It might come at the price of my financial security, but hey, I managed two months without a fucking home.
Right now I feel displaced, like an outsider. I don't feel I have anywhere that's mine. I used to feel that my job (admittedly, not this job) was mine, that I had an attachment to the company. I used to have two groups of dance people that I felt were mine, but now one of them has almost completely dispersed and the other has moved on without me, to a place of rehearsing and performing and teaching and competing which is almost the exact opposite of what I want but makes me feel sad and left out nonetheless. I went to a dance last week after several months of not, an event I went to almost every month for two years, full of people I know and some I love, and I felt less at home than I did the first time I walked into a social, when there was not one familiar face in the room. You can't fix that with drugs.
I haven't decided what to do yet. I'm wary of doing too much research into the drug itself because everything has all the side effects in the world, so I think it comes down to: am I willing to refuse a possible solution on the strength of a gut feeling?
Wednesday, 23 September 2015
one hundred
Hi there, and welcome to my 100th post! I feel like I should have prepared something, possibly the blog equivalent of slightly burned cake with sprinkles on it.
I'm not even sure how to start writing again. Over the last few months I've written and deleted the beginnings of about a dozen draft posts that I got a few sentences into and gave up on. As soon as I got to a point where I wasn't a hundred per cent sure what word would come next and I'd have to stop and make a choice, it was like someone chucked a black cloth over the birdcage of my brain (yeah, you hear that? You're a BIRDCAGE) and everything would just... stop working.
ME: It's OK, we can skip over that word and come back to it later.
BRAIN: No. Done now.
ME: But I want to write.
BRAIN: WE ARE DONE. Now are you going to back away from the blog or do I have to send in the Wave of Inexplicable Hopelessness?
ME: But...
BRAIN: UNLEASHING THE WAVE
ME: Everything is useless.
BRAIN: That's better.
I will get over this. But not the way my brain is telling I will; i.e. by staying completely silent until PERFECTION happens. It will happen by posting things like this, because I promised myself I would write and I have. It will happen by showing myself every day that, yes, I can write, and yes, I can share it. It will happen by looking back over several dozen entries and seeing my voice getting stronger, watching my writing come back to life. And where my writing goes, the rest of me will follow.
I'm not even sure how to start writing again. Over the last few months I've written and deleted the beginnings of about a dozen draft posts that I got a few sentences into and gave up on. As soon as I got to a point where I wasn't a hundred per cent sure what word would come next and I'd have to stop and make a choice, it was like someone chucked a black cloth over the birdcage of my brain (yeah, you hear that? You're a BIRDCAGE) and everything would just... stop working.
ME: It's OK, we can skip over that word and come back to it later.
BRAIN: No. Done now.
ME: But I want to write.
BRAIN: WE ARE DONE. Now are you going to back away from the blog or do I have to send in the Wave of Inexplicable Hopelessness?
ME: But...
BRAIN: UNLEASHING THE WAVE
ME: Everything is useless.
BRAIN: That's better.
I will get over this. But not the way my brain is telling I will; i.e. by staying completely silent until PERFECTION happens. It will happen by posting things like this, because I promised myself I would write and I have. It will happen by showing myself every day that, yes, I can write, and yes, I can share it. It will happen by looking back over several dozen entries and seeing my voice getting stronger, watching my writing come back to life. And where my writing goes, the rest of me will follow.
Tuesday, 22 September 2015
PLAN
So, this is what's been happening since the last time I wrote a proper post:
- I have been on long-term sick leave for four months
- I have tried three different types of anti-depressant, none of which have worked
- I have basically subsisted entirely on cereal, brownies and cheese
- I have cut out most of my regular activities because seeing people is terrifying
- I have, on occasion, refused to go down the stairs in my own house because of non-specific terror
- I have been completely unable to write because all the words look wrong
- I have got quite sick of all the above but not felt able to do anything about it
- I have not been having very much fun at all, really
However, over the last few days my brain has seized on to something it's calling my PLAN, very definitely in capital letters but also not standing for anything (Paving Laid for Achieving Newness? Preliminary Lists of Ambitious Notions? Pugs, Limes, Ardbeg, and Netflix? STOP IT JEN this is not a useful way to spend an afternoon). It's quite excited about it and I'm worried it will run out of steam before we get to the important bits. I'm trying to keep it going by eating actual food and not sleeping during the day and possibly coming into contact with other humans, i.e. the exact opposite of what I've been doing since May, because I really want PLAN to work and I want to have the wherewithal and motivation to make it happen.
Boiled down to its essence, PLAN is as follows:
This year: quit job.
Next year: get another.
PLAN is a bit scary. No, PLAN is a lot scary. I've written before about my fear of not being able to get another job, and I've been there for, frankly, years longer than I should have been because it was comfortable and I wasn't exactly sure what I wanted and the money was OK and who else would want you, anyway. But they're not compelling arguments anymore - it's no longer comfortable, sick pay isn't a thing forever. I'm still not sure exactly what I want, but my sights have shifted from "something better" to "something else".
The goal of PLAN is not to find the interesting, highly-paid, conveniently located, work-life balance respectful, wonderful people-filled Unicorn Career of my dreams. It's not even to find a great job, or a good job, or lots of new friends, or an incredible latent talent of some kind that I've managed not to discover up to this point. At its core, PLAN is to get me to a place where I'm comfortable existing in the world again; eating and sleeping on a normal schedule, doing things I enjoy, spending time with people I like, without panic and tension and fear invading it all and sucking all the fun out of life. I will possibly write a bit more about the fear thing, because I think I might make daily blogging a thing again for a while. Either that or I'll just write out a list of all the terrible "how fear feels" metaphors my brain comes up with while trying to write the first sentence.
My doctor's appointment is made. My social life has been scheduled for the rest of the month. All I have to do until October is eat, sleep, write, sew (oh yeah, I do that now) and remain calm in the face of other humans. Here goes.
- I have been on long-term sick leave for four months
- I have tried three different types of anti-depressant, none of which have worked
- I have basically subsisted entirely on cereal, brownies and cheese
- I have cut out most of my regular activities because seeing people is terrifying
- I have, on occasion, refused to go down the stairs in my own house because of non-specific terror
- I have been completely unable to write because all the words look wrong
- I have got quite sick of all the above but not felt able to do anything about it
- I have not been having very much fun at all, really
However, over the last few days my brain has seized on to something it's calling my PLAN, very definitely in capital letters but also not standing for anything (Paving Laid for Achieving Newness? Preliminary Lists of Ambitious Notions? Pugs, Limes, Ardbeg, and Netflix? STOP IT JEN this is not a useful way to spend an afternoon). It's quite excited about it and I'm worried it will run out of steam before we get to the important bits. I'm trying to keep it going by eating actual food and not sleeping during the day and possibly coming into contact with other humans, i.e. the exact opposite of what I've been doing since May, because I really want PLAN to work and I want to have the wherewithal and motivation to make it happen.
Boiled down to its essence, PLAN is as follows:
This year: quit job.
Next year: get another.
PLAN is a bit scary. No, PLAN is a lot scary. I've written before about my fear of not being able to get another job, and I've been there for, frankly, years longer than I should have been because it was comfortable and I wasn't exactly sure what I wanted and the money was OK and who else would want you, anyway. But they're not compelling arguments anymore - it's no longer comfortable, sick pay isn't a thing forever. I'm still not sure exactly what I want, but my sights have shifted from "something better" to "something else".
The goal of PLAN is not to find the interesting, highly-paid, conveniently located, work-life balance respectful, wonderful people-filled Unicorn Career of my dreams. It's not even to find a great job, or a good job, or lots of new friends, or an incredible latent talent of some kind that I've managed not to discover up to this point. At its core, PLAN is to get me to a place where I'm comfortable existing in the world again; eating and sleeping on a normal schedule, doing things I enjoy, spending time with people I like, without panic and tension and fear invading it all and sucking all the fun out of life. I will possibly write a bit more about the fear thing, because I think I might make daily blogging a thing again for a while. Either that or I'll just write out a list of all the terrible "how fear feels" metaphors my brain comes up with while trying to write the first sentence.
My doctor's appointment is made. My social life has been scheduled for the rest of the month. All I have to do until October is eat, sleep, write, sew (oh yeah, I do that now) and remain calm in the face of other humans. Here goes.
Friday, 11 September 2015
a short play
Cast
ME, a depressive
BRAIN, an asshole
[Bedroom, 9pm]
BRAIN: I'm tired.
ME: It's only nine.
BRAIN: I said, I'm TIRED.
ME: I'm not going to bed now.
BRAIN: I can't stay awake.
ME: Yeah, right up until I turn the light off, when you suddenly remember a graphic newspaper article from when I was twelve or that time someone shouted at me in the street or when you thought of some really creative ways for people I love to get hurt and for it to be my fault.
BRAIN: Well, we need to be prepared for all the ways people you love might get hurt and it might be your fault. Then it won't be a surprise.
[song interlude]
BRAIN: I'm TIRED.
ME: You've got to wait.
[Bedroom, 11.30pm]
ME: OK, this is more like bedtime. We can...
BRAIN: We should empty the washing machine.
ME: O...K...
BRAIN: It's important.
ME: Remember when you wouldn't let me do any washing for weeks because downstairs was too far away and I still had three pairs of clean pants?
BRAIN: IMPORTANT. WASHING MACHINE.
ME: Fine.
BRAIN: And hang it all up.
ME: Yes.
[washing machine is emptied, contents are hung on clothes horse]
BRAIN: While we're up, this room's a bit of a state.
ME: What, now?
BRAIN: NOW. It's a mess.
ME: Yes, it's a mess. It's always a mess. You look at it and you CAN'T and it's AWFUL and you have to lie down.
BRAIN: This sounds like excuse-making. You're always doing that.
ME: Alright, fine. I'll put a couple of things away.
[an hour later]
BRAIN: This cupboard needs reorganising.
ME: You have got to be kidding.
BRAIN: IMPORTANT. CUPBOARD.
ME: It's 12.30am and the cupboard is fine.
BRAIN: I'm on a roll. Stop complaining. You're always complaining about things that need to be done.
ME: Remember when you wouldn't let me eat because moving was too hard and you might accidentally see some other humans?
BRAIN: You're fine. Stop living in the past.
ME: Uh...
BRAIN: ORGANISE THIS CUPBOARD FULL OF FABRICS AT ONCE.
[organisation happens]
BRAIN: Now for writing.
ME: What?
BRAIN: You should write! You keep saying that!
ME: ...you haven't let me write for over three months.
BRAIN: So you'd better jump on it, hadn't you?
[writing]
ME: Does this mean you're going to let me dance again too?
BRAIN: Let's not go nuts.
ME: But...
BRAIN: I don't like moving. And there are people.
ME: I like people.
BRAIN: Yeah, but let's face it, you're no fun anymore.
ME: Whose fault is that?
BRAIN: This would be a lot easier if you just accept the fact that nobody cares if you're there or not and that moving around is rubbish.
ME: I'd rather not.
BRAIN: Maybe you should clean the carpet.
ME: Maybe you should shut up.
BRAIN: Maybe YOU should shut up. Ever think about that?
ME: Yes.
BRAIN: Good.
[writing finishes]
ME: Now is it bedtime?
BRAIN: You need to make a spreadsheet.
ME: A spreadsheet?
BRAIN: IMPORTANT.
ME: Can't we do that in the morning?
BRAIN: Well, sure, if that's a risk you want to take.
ME: Fine.
[The next morning, 10am]
ME: So, did you want to vacuum the carpet?
BRAIN: I'm TIRED. I was up LATE.
ME: Whose fault is that?
BRAIN: I can't do ANYTHING. Not one thing. Bring me the internet.
ME: But...
BRAIN: IMPORTANT. INTERNET.
ME: I remember when you used to be nice.
BRAIN: Stop living in the past and bring me the internet before I start imagining that you've been locked in a room with your ex for science and all you can do is scream obscenities at him because of all the things he did that I'm about to remind you of.
ME: Yes, yes, alright.
BRAIN: Youtube is soothing.
ME: The room is still kind of a mess.
BRAIN: You made me do THINGS. I'm not doing THINGS again for WEEKS. Remember when we stayed awake every night and watched five hundred videos of improv sketches in a row? Wasn't that great?
ME: It really wasn't.
BRAIN: Those were the days.
[Youtube]
ME: Can we go for a walk?
BRAIN: Ask me again in a week.
ME, a depressive
BRAIN, an asshole
[Bedroom, 9pm]
BRAIN: I'm tired.
ME: It's only nine.
BRAIN: I said, I'm TIRED.
ME: I'm not going to bed now.
BRAIN: I can't stay awake.
ME: Yeah, right up until I turn the light off, when you suddenly remember a graphic newspaper article from when I was twelve or that time someone shouted at me in the street or when you thought of some really creative ways for people I love to get hurt and for it to be my fault.
BRAIN: Well, we need to be prepared for all the ways people you love might get hurt and it might be your fault. Then it won't be a surprise.
[song interlude]
BRAIN: I'm TIRED.
ME: You've got to wait.
[Bedroom, 11.30pm]
ME: OK, this is more like bedtime. We can...
BRAIN: We should empty the washing machine.
ME: O...K...
BRAIN: It's important.
ME: Remember when you wouldn't let me do any washing for weeks because downstairs was too far away and I still had three pairs of clean pants?
BRAIN: IMPORTANT. WASHING MACHINE.
ME: Fine.
BRAIN: And hang it all up.
ME: Yes.
[washing machine is emptied, contents are hung on clothes horse]
BRAIN: While we're up, this room's a bit of a state.
ME: What, now?
BRAIN: NOW. It's a mess.
ME: Yes, it's a mess. It's always a mess. You look at it and you CAN'T and it's AWFUL and you have to lie down.
BRAIN: This sounds like excuse-making. You're always doing that.
ME: Alright, fine. I'll put a couple of things away.
[an hour later]
BRAIN: This cupboard needs reorganising.
ME: You have got to be kidding.
BRAIN: IMPORTANT. CUPBOARD.
ME: It's 12.30am and the cupboard is fine.
BRAIN: I'm on a roll. Stop complaining. You're always complaining about things that need to be done.
ME: Remember when you wouldn't let me eat because moving was too hard and you might accidentally see some other humans?
BRAIN: You're fine. Stop living in the past.
ME: Uh...
BRAIN: ORGANISE THIS CUPBOARD FULL OF FABRICS AT ONCE.
[organisation happens]
BRAIN: Now for writing.
ME: What?
BRAIN: You should write! You keep saying that!
ME: ...you haven't let me write for over three months.
BRAIN: So you'd better jump on it, hadn't you?
[writing]
ME: Does this mean you're going to let me dance again too?
BRAIN: Let's not go nuts.
ME: But...
BRAIN: I don't like moving. And there are people.
ME: I like people.
BRAIN: Yeah, but let's face it, you're no fun anymore.
ME: Whose fault is that?
BRAIN: This would be a lot easier if you just accept the fact that nobody cares if you're there or not and that moving around is rubbish.
ME: I'd rather not.
BRAIN: Maybe you should clean the carpet.
ME: Maybe you should shut up.
BRAIN: Maybe YOU should shut up. Ever think about that?
ME: Yes.
BRAIN: Good.
[writing finishes]
ME: Now is it bedtime?
BRAIN: You need to make a spreadsheet.
ME: A spreadsheet?
BRAIN: IMPORTANT.
ME: Can't we do that in the morning?
BRAIN: Well, sure, if that's a risk you want to take.
ME: Fine.
[The next morning, 10am]
ME: So, did you want to vacuum the carpet?
BRAIN: I'm TIRED. I was up LATE.
ME: Whose fault is that?
BRAIN: I can't do ANYTHING. Not one thing. Bring me the internet.
ME: But...
BRAIN: IMPORTANT. INTERNET.
ME: I remember when you used to be nice.
BRAIN: Stop living in the past and bring me the internet before I start imagining that you've been locked in a room with your ex for science and all you can do is scream obscenities at him because of all the things he did that I'm about to remind you of.
ME: Yes, yes, alright.
BRAIN: Youtube is soothing.
ME: The room is still kind of a mess.
BRAIN: You made me do THINGS. I'm not doing THINGS again for WEEKS. Remember when we stayed awake every night and watched five hundred videos of improv sketches in a row? Wasn't that great?
ME: It really wasn't.
BRAIN: Those were the days.
[Youtube]
ME: Can we go for a walk?
BRAIN: Ask me again in a week.
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